Bekah Martinez looks beyond his “unsafe” to take a close look at “one of the hard and magical peak moments of [his] life”.
On Tuesday, season 22 contestant The Bachelor shared a video of her son Franklin James at home on June 19 and moments before she and her boyfriend Grayston Leonard welcomed her into the world.
Throughout the video, Martinez, 25, is running her home and in the delivery tub, moaning in pain during contractions, while women gather around the fan to stay fresh. About halfway through the journey, Franklin is truly shown being born in the bathtub.
The mother of two admits that she “felt nervous about sharing this video” at first, despite the joy of giving birth “beyond what she might have expected” and “a dream come true.”
“However, strangely, the photographs seemed so raw and primitive that I felt uncomfortable looking for them,” Martinez recalls in the legend of the video.
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The former truth TV star “has come to some conclusions” after sitting down a little with her feelings. First, “I was afraid of the unpleasant things other people might say about something so sacred to me,” he says.
“But also, more importantly, I learned that I felt uncomfortable hunting myself with so much POWER,” Martinez continues. “I learned that I still had many negative, subconscious, deeply rooted minds that told me that I was not female enough; who saw me and looked weird. I projected so much confidence in a joy that I was at the point of fact one of the most powerful magical moments of my life.”
“It’s a time to share; so in the first place, fuck ♥ ️,” he concludes, before proceeding to thank Leonard, his cameraman, his midwiser and his mother.
Among the supporting comments one by Jamie Otis, who told Martinez, “Legid cries when he sees this! You’re a warrior, Mommy!”
“Thank you for helping me (and so many women) realize the strength we have on so many levels!” Bachiller’s fellow mother and student added. “Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m amazed by you! I love you, Bekah! ???”
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Martinez, who competed for the center of Arie Luyendyk Jr. on The Bachelor and now presents a podcast, Chatty Broads, has already opened the podcast about her birth story, and added why she chose to give birth at home this time rather than. space as he did with his daughter Ruth Ray De La LuzArray now 18 months old.
The new mother of two also sought a “more practical approach” this time with respect to her midwifest, and “didn’t really have a plan” for childbirth, she hoped it would be “really easy” as Ruth’s Birth was undeniable just over a year earlier.
‘I like it, ‘I need it to be a joyful experience.’ It’s very exhausting and long with Ruth. I thought, “I need it to be fun,” Martinez said of the “atmosphere” he was looking for. “I need to laugh and joke with other people between contractions.”
“[It] came out here absolutely in a contraction,” he added over Franklin’s access to the world. “I briefly felt the ring of fire, but not really. Just fast. Just a push and his head out.
Martinez didn’t open his eyes until the baby’s body came out, which happened to the next contraction. “He didn’t even cry for the first few minutes. It’s like I don’t even know he was born,” he said. “He sat on my lap with his eyes closed.”